Strong. Independent. Equal. Flawless. Put together. Relaxed. Talented. Effortlessly perfect.
These are all words for the pressure that I feel is put on women on a daily basis. Whether you are a teenager learning what being a woman is suppose to look like, a young mom trying to show someone else what a woman is, or a middle aged woman who is suppose to be the example of what a woman is, these pressures are the same.
Sometimes I find myself feeling like there are just too many things I’m suppose to be, not enough me to be them, and then at the end of the day I don’t really know who I am at all. I’ve become all of these expectations that I fall short of. (Kind of reminds me of this post.)
I remember this one defining moment in high school. I can’t tell you how old I was, exactly, or what time of day it was, but I remember the feelings. I felt overwhelmed and unsure of who I was suppose to be. What was I suppose to do with my life? How am I suppose to be all of these things that women are suppose to be? I can’t do it! God reminded me that He knew who I was made to be (He did make me, after all.). I started to write down the things that I knew God had told me to be, in His word.
Doing this, I didn’t find out where I should go to college, who my friends should be, or what I should major in. What I did find was truth and life. I found a purpose.
This is who He says that we should be:
Gracious: A gracious woman gets honor, and violent men get riches. Proverbs 11:16
Kind and Generous: She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. Proverbs 31:20
Submissive: Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18
Reverent, Loving, Self-Controlled, Pure, Hard Working, Kind, and Submissive: 3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:3-5
Wise: The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. Proverbs 14:1